Your MIAM

A MIAM is a short, private meeting. It stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting.

This page explains what a MIAM is, why you might need one, and what happens when you go.

What is a MIAM?

A MIAM is a one-to-one meeting between you and a trained mediator. It usually lasts about 45 to 60 minutes.

It is just you and the mediator

The other person in your dispute is not there. You each have your own separate MIAM.

Everything is confidential

What you say in the MIAM is private. It will not be shared with the other person or a court.

There is no pressure

The MIAM is just to give you information and find out if mediation could help you. You do not have to commit to anything.

Why do I need a MIAM?

ℹ️ In England and Wales, you usually must attend a MIAM before you can apply to a family court.

Courts want you to try mediation first

The law says that most people should explore mediation before going to court. The MIAM is how you do that.

You get a certificate afterwards

If mediation is not right for you, the mediator will sign a form. You will need this form if you want to go to court.

What happens at a MIAM?

You arrive and feel welcome

The mediator will greet you. The meeting usually takes place in a quiet, private office, or it may take place online. It’s your choice which will make you feel most comfortable. You can bring a support person if you need one — ask beforehand.

The mediator explains what mediation is

They will explain how mediation works, what the mediator’s role is, and what to expect. You can ask as many questions as you like.

You tell them about your situation

The mediator will ask you some questions about what is happening in your family. You only need to share what you are comfortable with.

They check if mediation is safe and suitable

The mediator will ask about your safety. They want to make sure mediation is the right option for you. They will ask about things like domestic abuse.

They explain the next steps

At the end, the mediator will tell you what they think. They will talk through what could happen next — whether that is mediation, another service, or going to court.

What happens after the MIAM?

Mediation goes ahead

If both people agree and it is safe, you can move on to joint mediation sessions together. Or,

Mediation is not suitable

The mediator may decide mediation is not right for your situation. They will sign the form you need to go to court instead, and,

You may be signposted to other help

The mediator may suggest other services that could help you, such as a solicitor, financial advisor, a counsellor, or a support charity.

Useful things to know before you go

✅ You can have your MIAM online or by phone if going in person is difficult.

✅ If you are eligible for legal aid, your MIAM may be free of charge. See our Fees page for more information.

✅ You do not need to speak to the other person before your MIAM.

⚠️ If you are worried about your safety, tell the mediator straight away. They are trained to help and will not put you in danger.